There are a plethora of tools, education, research and teachers for those who want to learn more about self-discovery, emotional regulation, healing from past life experiences and personal growth. While I include recommended resources at the end of most of my blog posts, I will be using this page on my website to provide you with my favorite relatable resources — and that will include the podcasts, Facebook and Instagram influencers I follow. I always welcome recommendations, so send me an email if you have discovered a book, a podcast, a social media influencer, an activist — anyone or anything that helps you evolve into your best self.
I discovered Elizabeth Earnshaw on a Being Well Podcast and was immediately captivated when I learned that she was trained in the Gottman Method for relationship counseling. John and Julie Gottman are world-renowned researchers and clinical psychologists, who have developed their acclaimed program on nine components of healthy relationships. Liz offers such relatable, real life experiences on her Instagram – the little sound bites that reinforce better skills for us to put into practice each day.
Elizabeth Earnshaw, Director @BetterLifeTherapy, Licensed Family & Marriage Therapist, Certified Gottman Institute Therapist, Author of “I Want This to Work”- An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age.
It’s not a surprise that I also discovered Nedra Tawwab on an episode of Being Well. Nedra’s speciality is BOUNDARIES – an area of keen interest to me because I was never very skilled at setting them and holding others to my boundaries. Yet this is the key way that we inform others of how we want to be treated. Setting a boundary does require a healthy dose of self-awareness, alignment with core values and personal courage. Nedra’s Nuggets on Instagram offer poignant reminders of why we need to establish our own boundaries, and honor the boundaries of others. Again, I love the daily dose of encouragement, knowledge and motivation Nedra provides to keep me committed to this important tool.
Nedra Glover Tawwab, Therapist and Author, Relationship & Boundaries Expert, Author of “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself.”
My 34 year old daughter introduced me to Yung Pueblo in 2020 when she handed me a copy of his book, Inward. I was captivated. Here was a young man, the same age as my daughter espousing wisdom and insights that usually only comes from decades of lived experiences and many hard lessons learned. How inspiring for other young people in their 30’s and 40’s to have a peer showing them the benefits of looking “inward” at themselves and making meaningful changes that will support their well-being. Yung Pueblo published another book, Clarity &. Connection, in Apri 2021. For me, this book shows just how much Yung Pueblo is evolving in remarkable ways. Again, his wisdom and insights are so relatable, so compelling. I love his daily posts on Instagram and Facebook and am prone to sharing them often with friends and loved ones.
Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo is a 34 year old author, poet, meditator and speaker. He is part of a growing community of writers and poets trying to turn social media into a force for positive change. He is a general partner of @WisdomVentures, a new initiative to create a social media platform dedicated to personal growth, learning and healing. Click this link to learn more about this exciting new initiative. https://www.wisdomventuresfund.com
I have long been a fan of John and Julie Gottman, renowned clinical psychologists and researchers for all the work they do to support couples and families. John’s breakthrough research on marriage and parenting has earned him numerous prestigious awards in this complex field. He is well known for developing the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse for Relationships: Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling. Follow them on Instagram and check them out online https://www.gottman.com
RESOURCES ABOUT THE ENNEAGRAM:
If you want to learn more about the Enneagram, The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron is a great primer. It is easy to understand and the stories are very relatable to many of us. Ian offers an enneagram assessment so be sure to check out his website to learn more: https://typologyinstitute.com/assessment/
Ian Morgan Cron just released his latest book in late December, 2021, The Story of You: An EnneagramJourney to Becoming Your True Self. The focus of Ian’s latest book is showing you how to overwrite the negative, out-dated stories you tell yourself to ultimately become your true self. I’m currently reading this book and am learning something new with each chapter.
I noted about in the Podcasts section, Ian Cron’s Typology Podcast. You will enjoy these interactive conversations with diverse guests, who share how using the enneagram has been transformational in their personal development, their relationships, and their careers.
If you want to dive a little deeper into the enneagram, I highly recommend Beatrice Chestnut’s book, The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge. This book is a comprehensive handbook on all nine personality types — and their sub-types and wings. Beatrice is a renowned authority on the enneagram and she describes it as a personal owner’s manual for each of us. Not only will you come to know yourself better, you will begin to see others in a whole new light as well.
In October, 2021, Beatrice Chestnut published a new book, The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up: Find Your Path, Face Your Shadow, Discover Your True Self. Although I have not finished reading this book yet, I love how Beatrice offers her insights in such easy to understand ways. In this book, she pragmatically shows each of the 9 types the path they can take to overcome old behavioral patterns that hold us back from being our true selves. Its so easy to grasp her wisdom. This is bound to be a “go to” reference in my personal enneagram library.
Another great way to explore the wisdom of the enneagram is to check out this website — https://www.enneagraminstitute.com. The Enneagram Institute also has a free online test to help you determine your Enneagram type. Check the tab “Learn” to read descriptions of all 9 types, and gain insight into the “healthy” side of our enneagram spectrum and the “unhealthy” side. Sign up for their daily “Enneathought for the day” for your type — and you will find an email in your inbox each day that offers you personalized tips. I love my Enneathought emails as much as I love my daily inspirational quotes.
IN A CATEGORY OF HER OWN – Brene Brown
No one is surprised that most of Brene Brown’s books on shame, vulnerability, authenticity, courage, leadership and wholehearted living are most definitely on my Noteworthy Resources page. These are not all the books she has published, but they are the ones that have had the greatest impact on me, along with her renowned Ted Talk on shame and vulnerability.
Atlas of the Heart has quickly become my all-time favorite — and will be an invaluable reference book for me and my family for years to come. Atlas of the Heart is such a beautiful, coffee-table book. It feels substantial in your hands, as if the physical weight of the book conveys the depth of the content on our vast, complex emotional landscape. Knowledge and language about our emotions are the change agents we need in this moment.
More Great Books: